Is it possible to avoid drama in your renovation or new build and communicate with confidence?

Learn how the Drama Triangle sabotages your project – and how to shift into empowered, confident communication that’s more productive and helpful.

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Hello! This is Episode 366, and in it, I’m diving into the Drama Triangle and how it can show up in the communication and relationships involved in your renovation or new build project.

This episode is a little different to the usual tips, strategies, and homeowner stories I share here. But I know from experience – personally and professionally – that how you communicate can make or break your project journey.

When things get stressful, uncertain, or emotionally charged, it’s easy to fall into unhelpful patterns without even realising it. You might shut down, lash out, try to fix everything for everyone, or feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

These responses often come from roles we unconsciously play. Roles like Victim, Persecutor, or Rescuer, are part of a well-known psychological model called the Drama Triangle.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through what the Drama Triangle is, why it’s so common in building and renovating, and how you can shift out of these roles into something far more empowering, using what’s known as The Empowerment Dynamic.

Whether you’re dealing with a tricky team member, struggling to make decisions, or feeling overwhelmed by the process, this episode will give you fresh tools and insights to approach things differently… with more clarity, confidence, and control.

Every so often, I share some content that is applicable to life as much as it’s applicable to your renovation or new build project.

Because, in all the years I’ve been doing this, I know this to be true: you bring your whole self to your project, the journey you craft and the home you create. 

Your skills and strengths, your learning and your knowledge, your mindset, your limiting beliefs, your communication abilities, your nostalgia, your fears, your aspirations and your dreams. 

It all comes with you, and so, if you want to have an enjoyable project experience and create a fantastic, feel-good and functional home, it’s essential to have awareness about how you can better show up to be the ambassador your future home needs you to be. 

In this episode, I’m going to dive into some communication models that will be super helpful for you. This can help you be more self-aware and shift unhelpful patterns more proactively. 

And I’ll share ways of understanding and framing your conversation, helping you arrest unhelpful patterns if you’re seeing them playing out, and important ways you can empower yourself to be more confident and impactful in your communication all round. 

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RESOURCES:

How to communicate with your project team >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/podcast-how-to-communicate-project-team/

Create a clear platform for communication with your Design Brief >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/podcast-how-to-create-your-design-brief/

How to get what you want in your project | Communication Before You Build >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/how-to-communicate-well/ 

Which tools will help you finish your project well? >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/the-best-building-renovating-tools/ 

Communication mistakes to avoid when building or renovating >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/communication-mistakes-to-avoid-when-building-or-renovating/ 

This video is a great insight into the Drama Triangle and The Empowerment Dynamic >>> https://youtu.be/Azv6GRniFio?feature=shared 

Access the support and guidance you need to be confident and empowered when renovating and building your family home inside my signature online program, HOME METHOD >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/courses/the-home-method/

Learn more about how to interview and select the right builder with the Choose Your Builder mini-course >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/courses/choose-your-builder 

Want to create a sustainable home when building or renovating? Grab the 44 Ways to Create a Sustainable free e-guide here >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/44-ways